When I went through my divorce, it was ugly. And the people who suffered the most from it were our children. We had intended to make things work smoothly for everyone, but when it came down to the nuts and bolts, it just fell apart.
Just because you are going through a divorce, does not mean that you are ending your relationship… especially if you have children together.
If you and your spouse have decided to part ways, wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could come out on the other side of it as allies, if not friends?
Divorce may be a permanent decision to a variety of relationship problems, but it can also be an incredible opportunity for healing current, as well as old wounds that are in great need of proper attention. There are specific reasons that you married your partner that are rooted deeply in your separate personal history. Identifying those reasons, healing the wounds and redefining your ongoing relationship can help you to interact with mutual respect and genuine concern for each other.
Healing the issues that led to your separation, as well as the profound loss from your divorce can impact your entire family as well as future relationships in which you don’t want to repeat the same underlying patterns. Establishing a sense of completion and redefining yourself in a healthy manner can have an incredible impact on your level of stress as you and your family walk through this difficult transition.
In my work with divorced or divorcing couples, I employ theory and techniques from both relationship counseling and deep, permanent loss and transition. Using this approach, couples are able to heal their relationship issues, as well as cope more smoothly with the deep loss and transition of divorce.
Whether you and your former partner decide to embark on this journey together or separately, it will have a profound impact on your family and your own happiness as you walk through the next doorway of your life.
Imagine a life where you can forgive yourself and your partner, and let go in love.